Despite how far we’ve come in conversations around sex and health, a surprising number of myths about safe sex still persist. These misconceptions can cause confusion, increase risk, and even contribute to shame or stigma. It’s time to bust some of the biggest myths wide open and replace them with facts that empower people of all ages to make informed, confident choices.
As a sex therapist with 25 years of experience, I’ve heard it all. And I’m here to clear the air.
Truth: You absolutely cannot.
Most sexually transmitted infections (STIs) show no symptoms at all—especially in their early stages. Someone can appear completely healthy and still carry an infection that could be transmitted to their partner.
What to do instead:
Truth: It depends on trust, testing, and mutual agreements, not just labels.
Even in monogamous relationships, it’s important to have clear conversations about:
Monogamy doesn’t guarantee safety unless it’s accompanied by mutual honesty and up-to-date testing.
Truth: STIs can absolutely be transmitted through oral sex.
Infections like herpes, gonorrhoea, syphilis, HPV, and chlamydia can all be passed on orally. Dental dams and condoms are effective tools to reduce risk, and flavoured options can make protection more enjoyable during oral play.
Safe sex isn’t just for penetration, it’s for any activity involving body fluids or skin-to-skin contact.
Truth: They don’t.
Hormonal contraceptives (like the pill, implant, or injection) are designed to prevent pregnancy, not infections. They’re often used with condoms to cover both bases but they don’t protect against any STI on their own.
If you’re using hormonal birth control, pair it with barrier methods for full-spectrum protection.
Truth: Some STIs can recur or be re-contracted.
For example:
This is why ongoing protection, regular testing, and honest dialogue with partners remain important, even if you’ve been treated in the past.
Truth: STIs don’t discriminate.
You can get an STI from your first sexual partner, your long-term partner, or anyone in between. Infection risk depends on behaviour, not character. Framing STIs as a “moral issue” only fuels shame and prevents people from getting the care and education they need.
Let’s drop the stigma and focus on facts. STIs are common, treatable, and preventable with the right knowledge and support.
Truth: Talking about sex, protection included, can actually make it hotter.
Open communication builds trust, increases anticipation, and ensures that both people feel respected and cared for. That’s a powerful turn-on.
Try saying:
Safe sex conversations don’t kill the vibe, they create the vibe.
Truth: Safe sex is a lifelong responsibility.
Sexually active people of any age can experience:
In fact, STI rates are increasing among older adults, many of whom may be re-entering the dating world post-divorce or after losing a partner. Safe sex matters at 18, 38, and 78.
Sexual misinformation can lead to real harm from unplanned pregnancies to STI transmission to emotional trauma. It can also reinforce:
By educating ourselves and others, we create a culture of safer, more respectful, and more pleasurable sex.
Understanding the truth about safe sex doesn’t make you paranoid, it makes you powerful. The more we know, the more confident, respectful, and connected we can be in our sexual relationships.
So let’s leave the myths behind and move forward with curiosity, communication, and care.
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Author: Amanda (Love Coach)
For: Langtrees.com
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