Most lost bookings don’t vanish at the door; they evaporate in the DMs. A good message thread should feel like a calm concierge walk-through: warm, clear, human. Not chasing. Not robotically “processing.” Just two adults agreeing on a time, a place, and a mood.
Here’s how I would shepherd a chat from first hello to confirmed booking on Langtrees or on your phone if you are a private operator—steady, kind, and efficient—so you protect your energy and the client feels looked after.
Start like a person, not a bot. If their first ping is “hey u free?”, you don’t need poetry. You need a lane.
“Hi love, thanks for reaching out. I offer unhurried GFE in [area/suburb]. What day and time were you thinking—tonight, or later this week?”
Short. Warm. It tells them what you do, where you are, and nudges them to pick a time window. The goal is to switch them from “browsing brain” to “planning brain.”
Tip: Keep replies within business hours you can sustain. Instant answers at 2 am train people to expect you at 2 am. If a message lands late, reply in the morning with the same warmth. Boundaries are part of your brand. And of course be mindful of returning messages at sensitive times when it may not be ideal for their discretion.
Qualify gently (they shouldn’t feel interrogated) move the chat forward with two or three simple questions that matter:
“I have 60 or 90 minutes available. Incall in [suburb] tonight, or outcall within [radius].
For safety I do a quick screen—first name + mobile. Which length suits you?”
No apologies. No essays. If you say it like the sky is blue, most people accept it.
When they answer, mirror one detail back to show you’re paying attention:
“Perfect, James—90 minutes Thursday works.”
State your rate like you mean it
If you flinch, they feel it. If you’re steady, they relax.
“90 minutes is $Y. secures the time
Once that’s confirmed, I’ll send the exact address and an arrival guide.”
If price-haggling appears—“Best price?”—stay polite and symmetrical:
“I keep my rate consistent for everyone. If 60 minutes suits your budget better, we can do that.”
You’ve offered a choice, not a discount. Choices convert; discounts drain you.
Confirm clearly and set the tone
Once the deposit lands, lock the details in one tidy note:
“Locked in: Thu 7:30 pm, 90 m, [suburb] incall.
Dress smart-casual is perfect. I love punctuality and a quick shower—I’ll take care of the rest.
If you’re running more than 10 minutes late, just text. See you soon.”
That middle line is gold: two standards delivered kindly, plus a promise of care. Clients remember how you make them feel in these small moments.
The day-of nudge (light, not clingy)
“Evening, James—see you 7:30 pm. Safe travels. x”
If he’s anxious, that message lands like a cup of tea. If he’s flaky, it’s a gentle tap that keeps you top-of-mind.
What to do with red flags (without losing your centre)
Explicit requests in DMs:
“I keep details classy in messages. Happy to talk boundaries in person.”
No screening:
“I understand. My safety policy isn’t flexible, so we’re not a match today.
Wishing you a good evening.”
Endless small talk:
Kindly steer back to booking or bow out.
“You seem lovely. If you’d like to book, send a day/time + length and I’ll confirm.
Otherwise I’ll let you browse—no pressure.”
Your calm is contagious. Keep it.
Pacing: don’t sprint, don’t stall
If you reply too fast to every dot, the vibe turns frantic. If you disappear for a day, they’ll find someone else. A sustainable rhythm (within an hour or two during business hours) says: “I’m reliable; I’m also busy.” That paradox is attractive.
Pro tip: offer two options each time—“Thu 7:30 or Fri 6?”, “60 or 90?”. The brain finds it easier to choose between than to invent from scratch.
Aftercare (the conversion you don’t see)
A gentle follow-up the next day does three jobs: it shows care, reminds them of the feeling, and seeds the next booking.
“Thank you for last night—loved the conversation.
I’m around Wed/Thu next week if you’d like to lock something early.”
That’s it. No neediness. Just an open door.
The quiet magic underneath it all
Great DM etiquette isn’t tricks; it’s tone. You’re not chasing or lecturing. You’re leading—softly. Every line should sound like a calm adult who enjoys her work and has her house in order. If a thread takes, you both feel it; if it doesn’t, you bow out gracefully and protect your time for the yes that’s coming.
If you’re rewriting your opener tonight, try this:
“Hi, I’m [Name]—I host unhurried GFE in [suburb].
What day and time suit you? I have 60 or 90 minutes this week.
I do a quick screen (first name + mobile), then I’ll send details.
Looking forward to taking good care of you.”
Read it out loud once. If it feels like you, keep it. If it sounds like a brochure, swap one general word for one specific kindness. Then breathe. The right people recognise steadiness when they see it—and they book it.
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Author: Master Yoda
For: Langtrees.com
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“Bookmarking this! It’s like DM etiquette with actual emotional intelligence. Honestly Love this—clear, calm, and grown-up. Perfect balance of kindness and boundaries, a guide that sounds human, and not like a call center script! Brilliantly written.”
“This is such a great guide — I wish I had something like this when I first started doing privates because it’s such a hard stage to navigate. It’s definitely worth keeping these kinds of responses saved in your notes app for quick copy-and-paste — it really cuts down admin time and keeps you from getting too emotionally involved. It can be so frustrating feeling like you’re repeating yourself all day and getting no bookings locked in, especially with how many time wasters are out there. It’s easy to slip into “robot mode” when you’re trying to protect your energy and set boundaries, but I agree that having that personal touch is so important — especially now with so many bots and AI accounts floating around. Clients want to know they’re talking to a real person. I also really liked the tip about offering exact times. It helps move the conversation straight into booking mode — otherwise it’s just endless back-and-forth like “are you asking if I’m free right now, today, this week…?” ? Having those clear options saves so much time and confusion. I think having saved responses also helps when people start haggling, don’t read your ad properly, or just seem like they’re getting off on the chat — it makes it easier to stay polite but detached. Communication, setting expectations, and maintaining boundaries are everything in this job. And I love the “otherwise I’ll let you browse, no pressure” line — it’s so simple but so effective.”
“This is such brilliant advice. You highlight the balance between professionalism and warmth and how to stay human perfectly. I'm planning a tour to Darwin in the next few months and I can genuinely see how I can use this advice to help secure bookings!”
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