If you work in this industry … or love someone who does … you’ve probably felt it: that weird mix of demand, secrecy, and shame that hangs over sex work like fog over a city.
This isn’t a “should it be legal” rant. This is a bit of calm, informed unpacking. Awareness, not ammunition. Something for workers and punters to sit with and maybe see the bigger game around them.
Let’s start with the crazy contradiction.
In most places, you can pay someone to have sex with you on camera. Legal.
You can support a “girlfriend,” pay her rent, buy her gifts, as long as nobody says out loud, “This is in exchange for sex.” Also legal.
But hand over cash in a hotel room for the exact same act, with the same adult, with more honesty … suddenly you’re a criminal.
So what are we really policing - sex, money, or honesty?
If you go back far enough, sex work wasn’t just tolerated. It was woven into the fabric of society.
In ancient Mesopotamia, brothels were linked to temples. Some women did ritual sex, others worked the streets, but it was ordinary civic life.
In Greece and Rome, prostitution was legal, taxed and everywhere. Athens even used state-owned brothels to fund public buildings. High-end courtesans were educated companions who sat at the table with philosophers and politicians.
Then Christianity spread, shut down the old temples, and declared sex outside marriage sinful. Officially, prostitution was condemned. Quietly, it was treated as a “necessary evil”—a way to stop men harassing “respectable” women. One saint basically said, “Remove prostitution and society falls apart from lust.”
That uneasy truce held until disease and moral panic hit. Syphilis outbreaks, the plague, and the Protestant Reformation turned sex workers into scapegoats and symbols of corruption. By the 1600s, most of Europe had criminalised prostitution. In the 19th and early 20th centuries, crackdowns spread worldwide. Red light districts that had been open secrets were shut down under banners of “purity” and “reform.”
Fast forward to now: laws are a patchwork, but in most countries, full service is still illegal or heavily restricted.
The reasons you hear most often sound noble:
There’s truth in all of that.
There is trafficking. There are people pushed into sex work by poverty, addiction, violence. There are cases of abuse that deserve every bit of police and court attention they get.
But here’s the part that matters if you’re in the industry: voluntary sex work gets thrown in the same basket, and the workers who are easiest to arrest—the street-based, the poor, the already vulnerable—carry the weight of laws supposedly written to “save” them.
Public health has been used as a weapon too. In the 1800s, some governments forced suspected sex workers into invasive medical exams. During World War I, women near army bases were detained under the banner of “protecting the troops.” Meanwhile, modern legal brothel systems show the opposite is possible: regular testing and condoms can push STI rates close to zero. If health was the core concern, regulation would make more sense than prohibition.
Then there’s the nuisance argument. Street work is visible. Cars circling, people loitering—that’s when complaints ring loudest. If you’re an escort meeting quietly in a hotel, you’re less likely to be targeted. Once again, it’s not really about whether sex work exists, it’s about where and who pays the social cost.
Underneath all of this sits a quieter driver: the family.
Religion and governments, for all their differences, agree on one thing—stable families make societies easier to run. The data backs it: kids in stable two-parent homes, on average, do better across education, income, and crime statistics. So states reward marriage with tax breaks, benefits, and big public rituals like weddings.
Now put yourself in that mindset: if you believe strong nuclear families are the backbone of society, sex work looks like competition. If men can easily buy sex, some will delay or avoid committing. Some will still marry, but treat the relationship as optional because there’s always an escape hatch. It’s not the whole story of why people marry or don’t—but it’s part of the calculation.
And then there’s the female factor.
Globally, women are consistently less likely than men to support legalising prostitution. Across countries, ages, and education levels, the pattern holds. Many women frame sex work as exploitation. Some fear disease, broken trust, or shared resources being spent in brothels instead of on kids and home. Historically, women’s groups joined with churches to push for vice crackdowns and rescue homes. Today, feminists themselves are split—some see sex work as inherently coercive, others as labour that deserves rights and protections. But when it comes to actual law, the anti side is still winning.
In our current era, the industry is swelling not just from historical inertia but from acute, modern pressures. Amid cascading global crises, political instability, runaway inflation, housing unaffordability, stagnant wages and widening inequality, more men and women are turning to escorting and sex-work as a lifeline. What once might have felt like a fringe choice now presents as viable survival: flexible house, direct payments, no gate-keeping bosses. At the same time, sex worker influencers - particularly on platforms like OnlyFans and TikTok, amplify the narrative of ease and empowerment, showcasing 5-6 figure monthly income, autonomy and quick wealth. They market it as an accessible business fronter with lower barriers, high rewards and a path to financial freedom in a world that offers few others.
So where does this leave you—if you’re a worker or a client?
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For me, the takeaway is this: the stigma around sex work isn’t random and it isn’t purely about you as an individual. It’s plugged into centuries of religion, fear, public health panics, family policy, and gender politics.
That doesn’t make the shame fair. It doesn’t make the laws just. But understanding the layers can take some of the poison out of it. You’re not the villain in some moral play. You’re a human moving through a world that still hasn’t made peace with how it uses pleasure, bodies, and power.
If this industry is part of your life—by choice, by need, or by curiosity—knowing the bigger story can be a quiet kind of armour. You’re allowed to see the system clearly and still hold your head high.
Author: Master Yoda
For: Langtrees.com
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“Another great read, Yoda - Always good to get some insight into why things are the way they are. Thanks for putting this up :) x”
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