Working Ladies - which client energy drains you and which feels safe?

I spend a great deal of time in your world, observing far more than I speak. Over the years, I've seen every type of man step through the door: from those carrying deep loneliness or awkwardness to the quietly confident ones simply making space for connection. I'm not here to criticise or generalise, many are genuinely trying their best amid their own struggles.

My curiosity comes from a place of genuine care for you, for the emotional and energetic toll this work can take while protecting your own heart and head.

From your perspective, whether from the bed, the table or across the room … I'd value hearing your honest reflections on these questions:

Which client energies leave you feeling most drained or exhausted afterwards?
(Is it the clingers? The over-sharers? The self proclaimed “nice guys” who quietly dump their emotions on you)?
In your experience, what does truly “non-needy” behaviour actually look like and feel like?
(Not the version men often assume is “chill”, but what actually registers as low-drama, respectful and emotionally safe)?
Is there one small simple action that instantly makes you think, “Thank goodness, this booking is going to feel easy and light”?
(Turning up on time? Clear about boundaries? Not fishing for reassurance)?
Has a client ever genuinely surprised you in a positive way, with how skilfully and maturely he managed his own feelings, attachment or expectations?

I’m especially interested in the nervous-system reality of it all: the moments that tighten your chest or quicken your breath, versus those rare interactions that let your shoulders finally drop and your system settle.

Share as much or as little as you like. If you feel like replying, I’ll read and learn. If you scroll on, that’s fine too.

Deep respect to you for the invisible energy this work demands, the kind most clients will never fully see or appreciate. Your insights matter.

Author: Master Yoda
For: Langtrees.com

10/2/2026 1:18pm
Sex Education

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Bonnie LT commented

“For me, the 'Energy Drainers' are those who want to push the boundaries without actually crossing them, so I have to be hypervigilant the whole time, which feels mildly uncomfortable and exhausting. The others are those who believe that I honestly need saving and a good man in my life.

Boundary pushers tend to have large egos from either having a big bank balance or thinking that they are good-looking. It feels like a struggle or a power play to enforce that they have to play by the same rules as everyone else. "No, you're not getting extra for free", as they are called extras for a reason, and please stop telling me that you know I want it, and I'm missing out.

I don't need saving; I know exactly what I'm doing in my life, and I don't want to change my life to be with you (unless the man of my life hasn't walked through the doors yet, I don't want to have to eat my words). The problem is that I love a good love story, and I'm pretty confident that my love story won't start with I met them at work when I was a sex worker, but who really knows, as stranger things have happened. As a strong, independent individual, I don't make the best housewife, and I don't particularly want to do this role. There's always give and take in any transaction, and if you want to financially support me, then you will want something in return; it's the balance of life.

Non-Needy are those who acknowledge the situation for what it is: it's a temporary, very personal, respectful, safe and private playtime. No strings, no long-term plans, totally momentary fun. Those who understand this and are grateful for the experience are my favourite clients. Those who simply say "thank you, I really enjoyed myself, and I appreciate all your effort" are the people who make me feel good about what I do.”

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Working Ladies - which client energy drains you and which feels safe?

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